I am a Modern Woman

I am a modern woman.

Yes, I know.

You are expecting me to go off on a tangent about women’s’ rights and equality.

I get it, I mean who really cares about human rights… am I right?

I am a modern woman because I do not find self-worth in a man, much less anyone else. This sounds really cliche and I know saying that it is cliched is cliched, but what I am trying to say is that my power and strength will never be drawn from one specific person. I find power in God and myself, which makes two. It's been a hard few years actually arriving at that conclusion though. You can tell yourself a hundred times but I believe that to fully understand your capacity, you must reach your capacity. You must take the time to study who you are and to fall in love before placing so much power into other people. This does not mean that you shut those who love you out, but rather acknowledge that you are not living as them. You are you, so gosh darn it! Be you! How can you place your entire existence into a man or woman if you cannot place that faith in you first? That is why the whole narrative that, "I'm not complete without you," is a load of bull. First off, yeah, you won't ever be complete because you will spend your whole life trying to live as half of yourself in order to leave room for someone else. This idea does not make me selfish or self-centered. Even though I talk a lot about myself I find it trivial to believe that my primary focus is an arrogant one. Yes, I love myself. Yes, I find me to be a great human being, but at the same time, I’ve always been more focused on the world around me.

Sorry to digress. So yes, I am a modern woman. I love pantsuits and androgynous dressing. I also love wearing quaint dresses and using the word “quaint.” I love floral and baby pink, but my favorite color will always be blue.

My dream consists of traveling the world and helping people. I have like 20% of motherly instinct, and I hate cooking. I am a modern woman because I want to see everyone educated. I value learning and knowledge above all else. I see the power in a woman, and I do believe that we are an untapped resource. I do believe in the power of doing. If you can bake, then bake. If you can build a house, then build a house. Living should not require gendered-based practices. I can read, write, and paint. I can weed-whack and I can change a tire, all attributes of a practical human.

Yes, I am modern but I still believe that a woman’s body is sacred. Her body Is a temple decorated with knowledge and power. Her mind is a machine, processing the universe around her, her eyes hold the very soul of the earth. So, yes, I believe a woman’s body is sacred because she is priceless to this world so let her move the world.

People assume, however, that because I am prescribing to these philosophies that I am also soulless and hard. I am no such thing. I am raw and real. I feel every heartbeat and every breath. I cry when I see pain and suffering, and laugh when I see someone smile. I am sensitive. I am emotional. I am human.

I intimidate people because I am so in touch with myself. I know whose shoulder’s I ride on and for that people are afraid. We need to break this twisted philosophy about the modern woman.

Yes, we are brave, but let that get in the way of the fact that we hurt and love.

I have loved. I love so deeply that I tear parts of me in order to feel more intertwined with those that I love. For me, it does not require sex or intimate relations of any kind to feel a soul-level connection. A modern woman or not, we all feel and we all are connected.

I am a modern woman because I believe in the power of the human spirit. I believe in the power of equality, and above all, I believe that my maker made us all human for a reason. No one is any less or more human because of any specific attribute. I don’t know what lies in my future, but I know for a fact that if I have children they will know the importance of a woman. I am a modern woman.

(Disclaimer to all self-centered, misogynistic, bigots of this world, I am not stating that this world is a women’s world or that I feel that women are the superior sex. If you take your blindfolds off for a hot second you would see that I value the importance of mankind equally. I love men and woman. I love people, period. I do acknowledge, however, the highly discriminative nature of our society towards minorities, especially those who are of color or who identify as female. We as people can no longer ignore the injustices of our society. More than ever we have the ability to speak up, to let our voices be heard. More importantly for those who still aren’t afforded the ability to do so for themselves. This isn’t about one specific nation but rather our world as a whole. We the people have the opportunity to support one another, and above all understand that life is about relationships not just about “me”).